Tags: Actions match words, assertiveness, decision making, denial, Fast Forwarding, Future Faking, intentions, knowing when to fold, looking for validation in relationships, overestimating interest and capacity, people pleasing, Rejection retraction, return on investment in relationships, The Reset ButtonWhen we’re confronted with the realisation that our partner has done a U-turn on previously expressed feelings and […]
Flying with hand luggage is not only cheaper, but it also frees you up from other inconveniences like lugging a heavy suitcas...
Tags: betting on potential, people pleasing, Reasoning habits, self-fulfilling prophecy of relationships, toxic type, uncomfortable comfort zone While reading a few reader stories of pain mixed in with good points, I was struck by the thought, Do these people realise that everything about their relationships is about reinforcing and even justifying an unhealthy course of […]
So, lately my girls and I were talking a lot about the kind of guy we call a man-child. It is the kind of man with Peter Pan syndrome, The guy who still behaves like a child even though he is in his 30ies, 40ies and continue the list. The one who fears commitment and responsibility like hell. That m
Tags: denial, Facebook and Breakups, ignoring yourself, listening to yourself A few months ago, I spent 45 very long minutes circling over Heathrow airport waiting for a slot to open up so that we could land. It’s very irritating and yet I realise that like many people, in the past I’ve been trapped in a […]
Tags: decision making, knowing when to fold, Landmarks of Healthy Relationships, looking for validation in relationships, Over-Givers, overactive guilt thyroid, return on investment in relationships, Self-Love in Dating, selling yourself short in relationshipsMany stories about unhealthy relationships or situations where it’s not mutual but there are attempts to make it mutual and ‘level’ are about […]
Tags: assclowns, boundaries - personal electric fence, Commitment, emotional unavailability, lazy communication, Obsessive entitlementThere are many questions that burn through our mind when a relationship ends. It may be because he ended it or because you cut contact with him, but many of us get caught up in the futile game of wondering: Does he […]
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It's easy to assume that because they're texting or you're sleeping together, you're in a relationship. Here are thirty signs of disinterest.
Tags: Abusive Relationships, assclowns, bad boys, blowing hot and cold, boundaries - personal electric fence, cheating, emotional unavailability, Fast Forwarding, Future Fakers, Future Faking, narcissists, The Cheater, The Outrageous Principle, The Reset ButtonAn assclown is someone that deliberately and consistently goes out of their way to treat you without love, care, trust and respect. They […]
Tags: Abandonment, Activation, Blame Absorbers, codependency, dating reflections of your parents, fear of abandonment in relationships, Normalising bad behaviour, people pleasing, shame, The Disappointment Cycle, uncomfortable comfort zoneWhen you’ve witnessed or been through a lot of stuff as a child, a chunk of adulthood is spent trying to work out what’s normal because it quickly […]
From avoiding people who haven't left their existing relationship, to not accepting lazy communication, Natalie shares 12 core boundaries to live by.
A rebound is someone to numb the pain of the breakup of the relationship you had before. A rebound is a buffer, an emotional airbag, a distraction to distract you from the loss of and pain of the relationship you had before. And after what my ex-boyfriend pulled off, after creating an air castle and
Baggage reclaim cartoon from Charlie’s latest column: “Then came that most bizarre of rituals: the journey to Shannon Airport’s immigration and baggage hall. Up you go, up several flights of stairs and escalators, and then straight away down you go, down several flight of stairs…” More Double Vision cartoons here.
Tags: casual relationships, casual sex, Oxymoron : Casual RelationshipIf you’ve ever dealt with somebody who borrows money from you but doesn’t repay it or even asks you for more money, then you not only have an idea of how damn frustrating it is to be guilted by someone who’s messing you around but also what […]
Tags: I'm not good enough belief, moving the goalposts on yourself, relationship insanity, selling yourself short in relationships, They're just not that special, uncomfortable comfort zoneWhen I hear about so many painful and quite frankly dubious experiences that BR readers are having, I realise that many of us have found ourselves trading down in life. […]
Tags: authenticity, boundaries - personal electric fence, Commitment, commitment resistance, dating several people at a time, decision making, passive aggression, The No Contact RuleThis week’s quiz is all about whether you’re a commitment dodger. When you resist being absolute in promising yourself to something or someone and/or keep yourself out of situations where you would […]
Tags: casual relationships, casual sex, Oxymoron : Casual RelationshipIf you’ve ever dealt with somebody who borrows money from you but doesn’t repay it or even asks you for more money, then you not only have an idea of how damn frustrating it is to be guilted by someone who’s messing you around but also what […]
Tags: Blame Absorbers, fantasy relationship, I'm not good enough belief, looking for validation in relationships Whenever I ask people why they persist in seeking validation, whether it’s about who they are, their behaviour, or a situation, they tell me that they don’t feel that they could be objective about things. The argument is that they […]
It's easy to assume that because they're texting or you're sleeping together, you're in a relationship. Here are thirty signs of disinterest.
Tags: casual relationships, casual sex, Oxymoron : Casual RelationshipIf you’ve ever dealt with somebody who borrows money from you but doesn’t repay it or even asks you for more money, then you not only have an idea of how damn frustrating it is to be guilted by someone who’s messing you around but also what […]
Tags: decision making, knowing when to fold, Landmarks of Healthy Relationships, looking for validation in relationships, Over-Givers, overactive guilt thyroid, return on investment in relationships, Self-Love in Dating, selling yourself short in relationshipsMany stories about unhealthy relationships or situations where it’s not mutual but there are attempts to make it mutual and ‘level’ are about […]
Tags: Am I too sensitive?, dating anxiety, Discovery phase of dating, how to break up, nice guys, people pleasing, projecting on to othersNewsflash: Lovely, nice, sweet, fantastic, considered-wonderful-by-society’s-standards people have breakups. Far too many people, though, behave as if only “bad” people should get dumped or have their feelings unreciprocated. There’s also this sense of […]
Tags: Actions match words, Blame Absorbers, decision making, denial, excuses in relationships, fantasy relationship, fear of failure, The Bullshit Diet, The Justifying Zone When you have issues with commitment of any kind, there is this perennial fear that if you make the decision that you’ll get it ‘wrong’ and then it’s like a black mark […]
Flying with hand luggage is not only cheaper, but it also frees you up from other inconveniences like lugging a heavy suitcas...
