Your mother was emotionally unavailable for you Your mother was not attuned to your needs Your mother was abusive in any way Your mother used guilt to control you You would never go to your mother with a personal problem You never felt that you were enough for your mother You thought you had to be perfect to please your mother You weren't allowed to express negative emotions Your mother looked to you for emotional support You were parentified by your mother Your mother had untreated mental health or addiction issues Your mother was competitive with you