Those of us affected by relational trauma have ugly scars on our hearts and may think of ourselves as helpless, or as victims. But living in a state of victimhood is damaging; it keeps us focused on our limitations and leads us into giving up our personal power. Recovering from relational trauma is the opposite of victimhood; it involves reclaiming our power, setting healthy boundaries for ourselves, and making choices based on our needs, wants, and what is good for us. Healing from relational trauma is a bittersweet journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and doing healing work in a judgment-free zone. Every person’s healing process is unique. It’s essential to do this work without applying restrictions, expectations, or a time frame because there will be unexpected insights and discoveries along the way requiring exploration and healing.