If you’ve ever heard your husband or wife say, “I want a divorce,” or “we should just get a divorce” or even “maybe we should try a separation,” then you know how frightening, how paralyzing, how stomach-sinking it can feel. Well, guess what? So does your spouse. In fact, that may be why they're saying it. They know it will get a reaction out of you. Of course, relationships are complicated and there are many reasons a person may threaten divorce. I’m not trying to oversimplify here. I am simply offering a few generalizations based on my experience as someone