This was the question one of my email subscribers asked in an email. I thought how best to respond to her and tried to in a response email. However, it turned out to be too much info to write in an email, so with her knowledge I wrote the response in this post, as I realized that others would benefit as well. So to my subscriber who gave me a reason to write this post, I thank you and hope that what I share will help not only you but other readers, to search through their lives and see where it