1. Redefine the word bitch I've noticed that almost every time I have stood up for something I am called a bitch. That's why I find the word empowering. You think I'm a bitch? Good. You think I have strong opinions? You're right. We should all have opinions and we should all stand for something. So call me a bitch, as a feminist I am empowered by it. Bitches build empires. Bitches raise their children right. On the flip side though, you are no man's "bitch." This is why this word needs to be redefined. Let's stop making this a dirty word to degrade women. 2. It's raining men girl, what are you worried about? So it's over but you can't help still thinking that he's "the one." Listen Linda, if he was the one he wouldn't be gone. Do not settle for anything or anyone. You have so much to offer, do not let anyone tell you any different. Real love won't feel like a waste of time. Real love will feel good, you'll know it in your heart. Real love will not need much thought. Your instincts recognize real love. 3. Stop hating on fellow women. You're on the same damn team, recognize that. I'm tired of hearing this "I like hanging out with guys because girls are drama." Girl, you sound like you are creating drama. If you don't have great girlfriends, find some. Great girls will change your life. My girls have gotten me through my toughest times and they don't even know it. 4. Be a great friend One of the best compliments I have ever received was "Kaylee will do anything for you, she'd give you the shirt off her back." I want to be there for my friends, I hope I am. I want them to know that I'll do anything for them. Be there for people, but only if they respect you. Be cautious of the people who are taking advantage of your kindness, and people will take advantage of your kindness. In case of this event, see rule #1. 5. Embrace and trust struggle Like it or not, your mistakes make you who you are. Know that your struggles mold and change you. Sometimes shit happens, and sometimes it hurts... a lot. How you handle it and who is there while you are handling it are the most important. Focus on what makes you happy, grow from it, and then share your happiness with everyone around you. Handle your shit and take care of yourself. 6. Know the definition of "feminism" Not knowing what a feminist is, is one of my biggest pet peeves. First things first, "feminist- the person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes." -Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Do you believe that? Welcome to the club my fellow feminist. If one more person says "oh you're a feminist? You must hate men." I'm going to shove my feminist foot up their ass.