When anger and resentment accumulates in a relationship, it becomes very difficult to empathize with that person because of the pain you are holding inside. Naturally, it will be hard to support or care for that person when there are unhealed wounds from previous interactions. Overtime, this can result in a toxic relationship environment with no space left to be respected, heard, and loved.One way to overcome resentment and rebuild the empathic bond is by communicating with the other person in a healthy way:1. Set the intention together to talk about the issue with the goal of rebuilding empathy and to ease resentment.2. Take turns to communicate with each other. This shows the other person that he/she/they are being heard and understood. After listening, express your experience and wishes in a non-threatening way. Try to use “I” statements instead of “You” statements (as shown in the post).3. Press the restart button - set up a date/time with the other person when you officially commit to start over without holding resentment from the past. This is more effective when you make the date tangible by writing it down and laying out the terms of starting over.Examples:Why don’t you ever listen? —> “I feel unheard” or “I feel sad”You are of no help at all! —> “I feel unsupported” or “I feel overworked”You don’t care about me! —> “I feel unloved” or “I feel uncared for”You are so insensitive —> “I feel disrespected”“Why the heck would you do that!? —> “I feel that you overstepped a boundary”