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Using coping statements can be extremely beneficial when you’re currently experiencing difficult emotions or facing a negative event. This DBT coping statement handout helps kids, teens, and young adults accept reality, feel better, and handle the situation well. Some of the coping statements on this handout include, “I choose to make the best of what I have” and “I will not be hard on myself today.” Any of these coping statements should be used whenever your child, student, or patient starts panicking. *This item is an instant digital download. A link to download your files will be emailed to you once payment is confirmed. Want more resources like this? Check out our full catalog of DBT worksheets and handouts.
Here's some inspiration that'll show you how to stop feeling hopeless & start feeling better. Get lifted up with this blog post!
My dad's really good at fixing computers. Me, not so much. My computer broke, and although I do own a book that could teach me how to fix it, I just had my dad do it. My dad joked that I was too lazy to fix it myself. "You have a master's degree," he said. "I think you could figure it out!" But that's really not why I asked him to do it. Life has taught me time and time again that I'm just not great at fixing computers. The last time I tried to fix my computer I broke it permanently and lost all of my important work. I was afraid to attempt it this time. Does this ever happen in your classroom? Do you have students that could solve a problem if they really tried, but they just won't? Do certain problems make them shut down? Are they constantly asking for help or putting forth minimal effort? Your students aren't lazy. They're learned helpless in some areas. Here's how it works. Educational Consultant Rick Lavoie described something called "Differential Diagnosis." A doctor sees two patients for headache symptoms. He determines that one patient needs brain surgery, and the other has allergies. They both are prescribed very different treatments. Doctors are skilled in differential diagnoses. Conversely, a teacher sees five students with their heads on their desks and assumes that they are all lazy. We've got to get better at differential diagnoses. One student may have been up all night helping a sick parent, while another may be suffering from learned helplessness in reading. This child has learned from experience that each time he attempts to read, he is unable and feels frustrated and embarrassed. Brain Based Learning theorist Eric Jensen described common learned helpless behaviors and provided ideas for replacing them with learned helpful behaviors. Learned helpless behaviors apathy sabotage positive outcomes give up before they have started refuse to follow directions engage in passivity rather than activity adhere to limits that they have set upon themselves believe that things will happen regardless of their input enjoy humor that is hostile argumentative avoid learning activities feign illnesses engage in “class clown” type behaviors express a “Why try?" mentality What educators can do to replace with learned helpfulness engaging students in community service giving students activist roles encouraging active hobbies implementing physical activity practicing personal skills encouraging students to begin making contributions to family redirecting negative states in class enhancing positive states in class giving students choices providing plenty of opportunities to increase self-worth utilizing confidence-building activities thanking students for something they've done helping students increase feelings of inclusion and ownership giving specific positive praise and encouragement Rick Lavoie compared learned helplessness to an elephant at the zoo. A baby elephant was tied to a post in a zoo and tried to pull away, but no matter how much the elephant tried, the chain wouldn't budge. Eventually, the elephant stopped trying. After a few years, the elephant was full grown and strong enough to tear that tiny post right out of the ground and break free-- yet the elephant had been trained to stay put. Students with learned helplessness are a lot like this elephant and should be encouraged to "give the chain a tug." Lavoie tells the story better than I do. Watch him here! (The whole video is awesome. Fast forward to 3:31 into the video for the learned helplessness information) Buy the whole video Motivation Breakthrough by Rick Lavoie here: Do you have any students who exhibit learned helplessness? Do you have any strategies that help? Share in the comments below! Happy helping, A Peach for the Teach
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No matter how big or small you perceive whatever stresses you’re going through, it will always be key to your mental and spiritual health that you are able to develop and use your own coping mechanisms to help you get through it. The word ‘resilience’ is defined as the power or ability to return to an original form or position; and whilst it may seem like that will never happen for you, it’s important that you understand how and why to make it happen. A difficult period of your life may be caused by uncertainty, general stress, or a specific situation over which you have little or no control. Whatever it is, there are steps you can take to rectify things for yourself; even if the situation itself doesn’t unravel or result in the way you’d like it to. The very first step you can take is to recognise that you’re in a challenging situation, in order to be able to reframe it. Give yourself permission to be annoyed and frustrated (you’re human, after all, and you’re not perfect!) before asking yourself: what can I learn from this? Even if nothing else, it may be that you work out how you can avoid being subject to a similar situation again, or how to better manage it to lessen the burden on yourself. If you need to, always reach out to others. There is no shame in asking for a helping hand or just a chat when things are rough, and others can hold you to account if you’re being overly negative, feeling helpless or indulging in unnecessary stress. You’d be there if a loved one asked you for help or advice, so it’s only right that they’re there for you, too. During tough times, make time to recharge and be sure to look after yourself to help recovery. Give yourself space to relax away from frustration; be that meditation, a big slice of cake and ten minutes to breathe or going for a run or a walk. Exercise of any type is the ideal activity if you can do it, as a heightened heart rate will release endorphins and promote a healthy mind as well as a healthy body. Repeat all of the steps above as often as you need and remember “this too, shall pass”. Very few circumstances are forever, and emotions develop and change over time, even the tough ones. Cut yourself some slack, stay patient and find strength in the knowledge that you have the power to imagine better. Look forward to this stress having passed and better, easier days laying ahead. After all, you have to experience some rain showers so that you know (and feel gratitude for) when the sun is shining. You will go through tense situations again, but by dealing with each as well as you can, you shall feel more in control and more stable no matter how bad, unexpected or different your stresses are.
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Here's some inspiration that'll show you how to stop feeling hopeless & start feeling better. Get lifted up with this blog post!
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Before our children came along, I envisioned motherhood as being all about baby snuggles, wet sloppy kisses, tickle fights, and bear hugs. I had no idea about the feelings of insufficiency or helplessness many moms experience. It’s a 24/7 job, and while it’s certainly a blessing to be a mom, there are days I feel like the worst. mother. ever. Have you ever felt this way?
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Have you ever felt helpless? Maybe everyone comes to that point sometime. Life can be hairy, heartbreaking or even hairy. We can grow haggard, especially if we’re not too headstrong to hesitate before hysteria sets in. The Holy One offers hope when we humble ourselves and holler for help, instead of pretending to be stronger than we actually are. What happens when we throw up our hands and cry out to Heaven? The Apostle Paul may have been one of the most remarkable leaders the Church has ever known. What was his greatest strength? Perhaps it was his sense of spiritual reality, for he understood firsthand that true power come only from the Source of Life. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV) According to Paul, human weakness opens the door for greater revelation of the power of the Almighty. Amen. Maybe helplessness is a powerful thing, if it drives us into the hands of the One who can offer us help and hope. Arise, Lord! Lift up your hand, O God. Do not forget the helpless. (Psalm 10:12, NIV) Hallelujah! Feel free to follow on GooglePlus and Twitter. You are also invited to join this writer's fan page, as well as the Chicago Etiquette Examiner, Madison Holidays Examiner, Equestrian Examiner and Madison Equestrian Examiner on Facebook. Related Items: Lead Me to the Rock of Heaven and Earth My Divine Deliverer - a Poetic Paraphrase of Psalm 86 Power and Provision - a Poetic Paraphrasing of Psalm 146 Wonderful and Worthy . Shop Amazon's Gift Cards - Perfect Anytime . Image/s: Bodybuilder Public Domain Clipart – Wikipedia Commons Photos A to Z Blogging Challenge 2012 logo Fair Use Share
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